How To Translate What Women Say They Want From YOU
*** Advice Of The Week ***

I WHAT WOMEN REALLY MEAN... I hope you're sitting down... because what I'm about to share with you
will change how you view women and dating. I'm about to take you "behind
the scenes" in the female mind. I'm going to give you a perspective that
most men never see or realize. Unfortunately for most guys, not seeing things the way I'm about to
share with you keeps them trapped in their own little world of failure.
If you pay careful attention to the things I'm about to reveal to you,
you'll definitely have more success with women. THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WORDS AND THE REAL WORLD... Have you ever heard a woman say something like:
"I want a guy who is sensitive."
"I want a guy who's in touch with his feelings."
"I want a guy who's a good communicator."
"I want a guy who is strong."
"I want a guy who is sexy."
...? Of course you have. Women say this stuff all the time. One of my
favorites is:
"I want a REAL MAN." I love that one.
In
the past, when I'd hear women say "I want a REAL MAN" I had NO IDEA what
the hell they were talking about. It almost didn't make sense. But keep
in mind, even though these things don't always make sense to us guys,
they make PERFECT sense to women. Here's the problem...
When a woman says one of these things, she actually MEANS something that
is different from what a guy would mean if he said the same words.
Let me explain.
If a guy says "I'm going to stay home and relax today", he probably
means that he's going to stay home, watch some sports, drink a beer,
look at pictures of women on the internet, and order a pizza. If a WOMAN says that she's going to stay home and relax, she's probably
NOT going to watch some sports, drink a beer, look at pictures of women
on the internet, and order a pizza. IMPORTANT NOTICE: If you are reading this right now and you are a woman
who watches sports, drinks beer, looks at pictures of the women on the
internet, and orders pizza to relax, then contact me immediately at the
email address below. And send pictures. Back to what I was saying... Women are DIFFERENT from men. And the words they use often don't mean
what they SOUND like they mean. So the FIRST thing that you have to get
through your head is that just because a woman SAYS something to you
doesn't mean that it means that you THINK it means. Catch my meaning?
THE BIG SECRET SHE ISN'T TELLING YOU There's a little secret that women never happen to mention when they're
describing what they want in a man. Unfortunately for all of us good
guys who are trying to be what women want... and hoping that if we try
hard enough to please women that they'll like us... this little secret
is causing us a LOT of trouble. The SECRET is that women ONLY want the
things that they're asking for from a guy who already has about 100
other qualities that they never mention. In other words, if a woman says "I want a man who is a good
communicator", what she REALLY means is: "I want a guy who already has
his life together, is interesting, unpredictable, dominant, funny,
healthy, charismatic, confident, and loyal... who is ALSO a good
communicator." The REALITY is that when a woman says one of these "I
want a guy who" statements, she actually has an IDEAL guy in mind, who
ALSO happens to be a good communicator. She's NOT imagining Homer Simpson sitting on his couch reading a book on
communication. The reality of this situation is that what
women REALLY want is a man who makes them feel the emotional and
physical response that I like to call ATTRACTION. They want a man who
makes them FEEL IT. But most women either can't describe the things that
actually make her feel ATTRACTION, or they don't WANT to have to
describe them, because they want a man who already IS those things...
without having to learn them. Think about it. If you were hiring a bodyguard, would you want one that said "Yea, I can
be a bodyguard. Just give me some time to learn..." or would you want
one that already KNEW how to kick ass anytime, anywhere without having
to learn? Duh. Well same goes with women. They don't WANT a guy that they have to
train. If you don't already have the UNIVERSAL FOUNDATION of what
attracts women, then no amount of changing and improving things like
your communication and sensitivity is going to help you.
WHAT IS A REAL MAN? Lately I've been thinking a lot about the idea of a "Real Man". You hear
both women and men using the term. But what does it actually MEAN? And
is it important? Well, after thinking about this particular topic for a long time, I've
come to the conclusion that it is a VERY important topic. At this point,
I believe that a REAL MAN is this "ideal" that women imagine when
they're saying "I want a guy who is sensitive". They're thinking of the
REAL MAN, and then they're imagining him ALSO being sensitive. There are
a lot of aspects to this REAL MAN. Here are a few that are important:
-Status
-Lack of Insecurities
-Standards
-Experience
-Humor
-Unpredictability
-Leadership
-Challenge
...and the list goes on. It's actually not easy to describe a REAL MAN in a few sentences... but
I'll tell you what... a woman can recognize one INSTANTLY.
THE MISTAKE MEN MAKE Now, a common mistake that men make is taking something that a woman
SAYS that she wants, and doing it TOO MUCH, thinking that if "A little
bit is good, then more must be better". For instance, a woman SAYS that
she likes guys who are "thoughtful". So you go out and buy her a bunch
of gifts, and give her cute cards every time you see her, and call her
all the time to tell her that you miss her. What happens? She leaves you for her jerk ex-boyfriend. Huh? This would be kind of like a woman saying "My favorite food is
chocolate" and then you thinking it would be good to feed her chocolate
for every meal just because it's her favorite... or adding chocolate to
every single dish you make for her from now on... and forgetting that
97% of what she eats still needs to be OTHER FOODS. Let me land the plane for you. Women don't MEAN what you THINK they mean when they talk about what they
want in a man. And if you take the things women say too literally,
you're going to wind up shooting yourself in the foot. WHAT WOMEN REALLY MEAN... So let me "decode" what women "really" mean when they say common things.
Consider this your own personal "female language translator". Refer to
it often. WHEN A WOMAN SAYS...
"I want a guy who is sensitive." WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a guy who is busy doing his own thing in life, who has goals and
objectives... who has passion for things. If we're out together, he
always keeps me on my toes, and I'm always wondering what's going to
happen next. He's challenging, interesting, and funny. I would really
like it if he was also sensitive enough to know when I need a hug, or to
be held, or when I want him to make love to me." Does this make sense? Again, she's not imagining a picture of a boring, predictable, Wussy who
is sharing his hurt feelings because he's so "sensitive". Big
difference. WHEN A WOMAN SAYS...
"I want a guy who is in touch with his feelings."
WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a guy who is strong-willed, and who doesn't get upset about
petty things... a guy who can deal with the fact that I freak out
emotionally sometimes... and who knows how to be cool when things are
tough. But I also want him to be in touch with his feelings so that:
1) He doesn't repress his emotions and then eventually kill 10 people in
his workplace, and
2) When he's intimate with me, and he feels a passionate rush... he'll
grab me and make love to me like a beast!" What she's NOT doing is making a picture of a meek, afraid guy who calls
all the time to ask "Do you like me? Because I sure like you".
WHEN A WOMAN SAYS:
"I want a guy who's a good communicator." WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a guy who doesn't talk all the time, because he knows how to let
me know what's on his mind without using words. I want the kind of guy
that can touch me in a certain way and I feel tingles all over my body.
And I want the kind of guy that can say things in a way that I
understand... not crudely and man-like." WHAT ABOUT "SEXY"? You'll often hear women saying that they what a "Sexy Man". Now, I USED
to think that they meant that they wanted a PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE man
when they said this. Sometimes this is exactly what they mean when they
use the term "sexy". But I've found that, most of the time, women mean
something TOTALLY different when they use the term "sexy". You see, a woman generally bases more of her life around what she FEELS
than a man does. And the concept of "sexy" is usually used to describe
the way a man makes a woman FEEL than it is used to describe how HE
LOOKS. Think about women's romance novels for a moment. Women's romance
novels account for about a fifth of ALL BOOKS SOLD. What do these books contain?
WORDS. Words that DESCRIBE things. Descriptions that make women FEEL
things. My point: If you want to learn how to be a "sexy man", then the
way you LOOK isn't the most IMPORTANT thing. I'll tell you something, too. Learning the secrets of being a "sexy man"
can be a very rewarding experience. A lot of guys out there, including
me, know EXACTLY what it's like to be either on a date with, or in a
relationship with a woman who has NO INTENTION of being with you
"physically". In other words, she's just not feeling that powerful
"sexual" ATTRACTION for you. And you don't know how to MAKE her feel it.
Well, let me tell you... Just like all the other things that a woman "says" that she wants in a
man... that most men don't ever "get", being SEXY is one of the BIG
ONES. If you understand the secrets of being SEXY, you will notice that
women start to behave VERY differently around you. For more specific techniques and step-by-step systems for becoming all
of these things that I've mentioned above, INCLUDING "sexy", then I
recommend that you check out my online eBook, and my Advanced Dating
Techniques program. My eBook "Double Your Dating" comes with three FREE bonus reports. One
of these reports is called "Sex Secrets", and it teaches you how to take
things from one step to the next when it comes to "getting physical"
with a woman. If you do these things, you will INSTANTLY make a woman
realize and remember that you are a SEXY man. I absolutely guarantee it. You can read some great free samples, and download it here right now
here
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