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*** How And Why Women 'Test' You
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Have you ever called a woman
on the phone to set up a date and had her say: "Friday night? Sure. Call
me on Friday and we can talk about it..." ?
Or have you ever had a woman ask you if you're a player?
Or have you ever had a woman challenge you about something ridiculous?
Or have you ever had a woman call you five minutes before a date and
cancel?
Or have you ever had a woman pout and get upset because she didn't get her
way?
Or have you ever asked a woman for her number and had her say "Why don't
you give me your number and I'll call YOU"?
Well guess what... you were being tested.
At some level, the woman you were dealing with was testing to see how much
control she had in the relationship. The paradox of "testing" is that if
you COMPLY with what a woman SEEMS to want, you will usually FAIL the
test.
Hey, I never said that it made sense.
I was reading a great book recently called "The Way Of The Superior Man",
and inside he points out that a woman will often ask a man for something
DIRECTLY... but if he DOES what she asks, she will be disappointed and
ANGRY with him.
Ever been there?
So what's with this testing stuff, anyway?
Well, the answer is fascinating.
Women test men because they need to QUICKLY figure out what they're
dealing with, and they can't expect a man to just be straight up and
honest about his strengths and weaknesses. I mean, let's face it... us
guys like to talk a big game, but when it comes to walking the talk, we
often can't back it up.
Also, beautiful women have a lot of options. They have their pick of men.
And attractive women prefer STRONG men. Not physically strong (although
this can be an advantage), but strong in CHARACTER and PERSONALITY.
Women aren't attracted to WUSSIES.
So let me ask you... if you were an attractive woman that was being chased
around by 100 guys, how would YOU go about figuring out which one or ones
was the "real deal" and which were merely FAKING strength and confidence?
Of course... you'd have to TEST.
But you couldn't test by saying "OK, I'm going to give you a test now, so
get ready".
No no no.
You'd have to use "blind" tests. Tests that would allow you to see a man's
true strengths and weaknesses. And in fact, you'd want to use tests that
ideally DIDN'T ALLOW HIM TO KNOW THAT YOU WERE TESTING... OR WHAT YOU HAD
DISCOVERED ABOUT HIM WITH THOSE TESTS. This way, if he turned out to be a
was a Wuss Bag, you could slip away quickly and easily.
This would give you the power. Of course.
And if you did this OFTEN, you'd eventually become so accustomed to doing
it that MANY of the tests would become UNCONSCIOUS and work their way into
your NATURAL, EVERYDAY way of communicating with men.
Well guess what?
That's what's going on with attractive women. Many of the tests that they
use with men are actually OUTSIDE OF THEIR AWARENESS. They test us
automatically! And if you fail one of these tests, there's a good chance
that you won't get another chance.
In this fast-paced world, we humans don't have the time to spend getting
to know people over a few months or years to figure out whether or not
they're the kind of person that would make a good friend or mate.
We need to know NOW.
So we use shortcuts.
Testing is a shortcut for women.
It lets them discover VERY RAPIDLY whether you have BALLS, or if you're
just another one of the bazillion Wusses that are trying to get her
attention.
I hope you feel what I'm saying.
So next time you're standing in front of a beautiful woman who you've just
asked for her number, and she says "Why don't you just give me yours and
I'll call YOU..." try CHUCKLING out loud, and saying:
"Cummon. Don't give me that old line. Write your number down, and I'll
only call you 25 times a day until you wind up having to change it,
because I have nothing better to do with my time than call someone who
doesn't want to hear from me."
Then hand her a pen, point to the paper, and look her in the eye
expectantly.
Love it.
Now, obviously there's a lot more to this issue of TESTING. There's a lot
more going on than meets the eye.
There are all kinds of subtle cues and body language that women read to
decide just what kind of man you are...and these cues also trigger
ATTRACTION (or the opposite).
 I've spent a lot of time researching this topic, and figuring out exactly
what makes women feel that powerful emotion called ATTRACTION, and what
repels them instantly.
And if you'd like an introduction to my main concepts and to learn the
basics of how to be more successful with women and dating, then go right
now and download my eBook "Double Your Dating". It comes with three bonus
booklets that are INVALUABLE and CRITICAL to your success with and
understanding of women. It's all at:
http://www.doubleyourdating.info/ebook
I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.
Your Friend,
David D. |
